It is hard sometimes not to get angry. Nonetheless, I have learned in my meditation practice that the feeling under anger is mostly fear. Fear of the things I can’t control. Fear of loss. During the upcoming holidays it can be easy to slip into anger…..at people’s behavior or lack of caution. It is easy to get angry at all the things and people who are “not being safe during the holidays”.
Yet I believe we are called to love, over and over again. MY anger is a shield that I need to drop so that I can see the fear, label it and let it go. When I live in fear it is like being stuck in the mud with big boots. The more I pull the harder the mud holds on till at last it lets go with a big whose and I fall into the abyss of dirt, water and slim. I know that when I am stuck it is better to take stock, move slowly, and to gently pull my boots out at an angle.
These steps work well for anger. Gentleness is the best way to confront it. This is the path of love and compassion. When we see others through a lens of compassion we are set free, when we move intentionally with creativity, not to be taken advantage of or hurt but to acknowledge the humanity in all of us we see the divine in the situation.
So I offer a prayer for the understanding of one of the harder emotions (adapted) from Marianne Williamson:
Take from me my rage.
I feel such anger from my pain, my frustration,
and my disappointment.
I throw my anger in so many inappropriate
I do not contain it or use it creatively.
Please grant me serenity and peace that I might
know my power within my peace.
Transmute my rage, transform my anger that I
Might not direct it against other and myself,
that it might be undone,
Unraveled through the grace of God.
Where I am focusing on someone’s guilt, please
show me their true heart, for I know that my
attack on them is my own undoing.
I am willing to see everyone’s inner heart.
Please show it to me.
Bless us all.